If you are ready to get a divorce and you want to go after everything that your spouse has, there are some things you have to consider first. Most importantly you have to realize that divorce can be a very long, costly, and stressful endeavor. If you have kids, it can affect them in a variety of ways as well. Here are some of the things that you may want to try, so that you can get what you want, without letting divorce turn your life upside down.
Do a Fair Assessment and be Practical
Just because you want to take everything that they have, doesn't mean that you can. Take all your financial information to your attorney and let them give you the best and worst-case scenarios.
Once you have this information, you can determine how much money you want, how much money you need, and what arrangements you want to make with kids, assets and more. If you are realistic going in you won't be disappointed.
Mediate if You Can
You don't have to take the case through the court system for months or longer. Instead, you could have your lawyer draw up your contract, and try to negotiate it with your spouse's lawyer. They may be willing to give you more money this way because they can save on legal and court costs, and this will save the both of you time. They may be so happy with your ability to consideration to mediate they may bend a little.
Think of the Long Term
You want to think of the long term. Instead of trying to get small and petty wins with the divorce, think of your finances and assets for the future. It may be worth giving up a visitation day to keep the house that you love, or getting rid of your expensive vehicle payment to get more spousal support in the long term.
When you start the divorce process the feelings are fresh, the anger is real, and a lot of couples can't see past wanting to get revenge or to hurt the other person. You want to go into a meeting with a divorce lawyer with an open mind so that you can hear out what they have to say. There are a lot of different ways that you can get through the divorce with the support of family and friends, think of your long-term goals and push through it.
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